I'm a normal woman who has experienced the pain of an unfaithful husband.  I am a mom of two energetic boys, a wife, an entrepreneur, and a Jesus follower.  My husband and I have been married for 15 years.  But 5 years into our marriage I learned that our entire marriage was rooted in lies and deception.

In October 2012, just after my son's first birthday, I picked up my husband's phone and saw something I never expected....extremely sexual text messages with another woman.  Over the next few weeks I slowly uncovered a web of deception through the trickle truths of a staggered disclosure.  I continued to hit what I thought was rock bottom, only to learn of something worse. I discovered he had actually sent sexual text messages to many women....then he told me he was addicted to pornography....and then I learned he had been physically unfaithful during our marriage....and also when we were engaged. The pain was unbearable.  My heart was broken.  And my marriage was a lie.

Before I knew if I wanted to stay married, I knew that I needed to focus on my own healing.  Whatever future relationship I would be in, I didn't want to bring my pain and brokenness with me.  So, I set out to figure out how to do that.  I didn't have a roadmap, or a guide, just a desire to be whole again.  I didn't always feel like I could do anything about how I felt.  But on the days when I did, I read books, searched online, met with a counselor, and took one step at a time to move forward.

When we finally made it to the other side, and our marriage was on stable ground, we knew that we wanted our experience to be used for a purpose.  That we could help others who walked the journey behind us. My husband began attending, then leading a group of men pursuing healing from the destructive grip of pornography and unhealthy sexual choices.  Together we have had the opportunity to walk beside couples as they faced the pain of infidelity.  And now I am on a mission to support other women who are dealing with the unbearable hurt of an unfaithful spouse get to the other side of that pain too.